We always knew we wanted kids. And honestly? Until 2020 it wasn’t something we gave a second thought to, we weren’t ready. Then at the age of 31 (for me, Jillian), my reproductive system started screaming, “You better have kids soon, because time’s ticking.”

We officially started “trying, but not trying,” in August of 2020. And it had been nothing but heartbreak.

After more than a year of trying - and failing (obviously) - to get a bun in the oven, my husband and I decided to make the leap and get help from a fertility clinic in November 2021. We had exactly one person we could contact about the whole experience and what to expect. While my girlfriend’s insight was helpful, and I asked a million questions, it turns out they weren’t the right ones…

Fast forward five months and three medicated IUIs later, we were no closer to having a baby than we were one and a half years ago.

After the heartbreak of my second failed IUI, I started doing more research on nothing in particular, really. But I started going down some rabbit holes; one of those holes was about endometriosis. Did you know that 20 to 25% of women with endometriosis don’t show any symptoms at all? And that the best way to diagnose endometriosis is by having surgery?

I started thinking… what if I am the one woman in five (or four) who has asymptomatic endometriosis? That would mean this entire time, I’ve been paying for IUIs that were destined to fail from the beginning.

This is where my frustration and disgust grew… I just didn’t see how my fertility doctor could put me through an IUI knowing that there might be a chance something else was wrong. I felt like they looked at the “standard” things and deemed me fit for a child. Naturally, I started doing more research and asking a million more questions.

The more I learned, the more frustrated I got with the fertility industry. But, the more I learned, the more hope bloomed too. And that’s why I’m here…

I wish I had found a blog like this before wasting my time, money, and heartache. No one might read this, or a thousand people might. Whatever the number, I hope I can help at least one other want-to-be-Momma in the form of information and knowledge.

After 2.5 years of officially trying - and literally giving up - we’re finding our light at the end of the tunnel, and you will too.

Hugs & Baby Dust
♥ Jilly

A Little Disclaimer

I do not claim to be an infertility expert, this blog/website and the things I share are wisdom and knowledge I’ve garnered from my own experiences and research with infertility.